I'm feeling very sad today..... empty...It's easter and my oldest son didnt call me to say hey or anything ...IT has been a month since we spoke. He hung up on me on that day which he always does when he knows I'm right and he is wrong...
I did break down and call him finally I decided I would go ahead and call ...Wished him happy easter and told him I wasnt working anymore...of course it was left on his voice mail because I always get voice mail..
How did I raise such a selfish child....I give up..
My heart breaks...and I can rest assured he does not care...
I do not understand.. It is my hope that Cameron and Zachary will turn out to be different..
Being a parent is harder especially when you children are in there 20's...
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Don't feel sad......I think all grownup kids act this way, well at least the majority of them........I have a very loving and caring daughter, but she soemtimes forgets to call when I think she should have....it hurst some but I know how I was at that age; when the world revolved around me, me, me!
Hope you had a good Easter!
hugs,
Carlene
I remember that weeks would go by and I would not speak to my mother. I regret that now. Time changes us as we age.
In time he will realize he was wrong for avoiding you so much....hang in there girl...i was more like that in my teens...as i got in my 20's i grew up fast...owned my own home at the age of 20..and was married...so there wasn't time for games...Keep the faith girl...and keep ur chin up...Hugss ~Terri~
I am sorry! I was a rotten 20 something to my mom too...but I changed! Praying he changes too!
Becky
I have one of those, too. I even sent him an easter basket, but I didn't hear a thing from him. Last time I talked to him was a few weeks ago when he bought a new car and came over to show it to me. Before that, it had been over three months since I saw him/talked to him...I guess he has his own life. He will be 22 in May. It still feels awful though, doesn't it? My daughter is getting harder and harder to deal with, too. I think you're right; it is very difficult to parent adult children...they think they know everything about everything, and we know they don't! Good luck! JAE
I wasn't a very good son in my 20's. So much was going on and I was trying to find my identity. I regret hurting my mom like that. But once I became a man -- I realized that she was wonderful woman. I love her so much. Give the kids a bit of time, Anne. They will eventually see the great woman that the rest of us see!
Russ
This is what I'm afraid will happen. They do this don't they? Uggghh. I'm sure you will talk to him soon.
Michele
It's a tough age.... I think he'll come around eventually. Hope your feeling better today
Ellen
That age is a tough one for a parent definately. I know when I was in my 20's I distanced myself from my mother as much as I could. I was having my own problems, my own family, my own crisis, etc., and the next thing you knew, I wouldn't have talked to her in a month or so, or a holiday would go by and I would forget to call her. It's not that he doesn't love you, it's just that life gets in the way when you are in your 20's. Have hope, children will come around! :)
Hugs and love, Lisa
I'm sure he does care hon, it's like all the other comments say though, he's at a difficult age. He's trying to become independant, make a life for himself. I've heard that as our kids get older, they grow away from us, but that they come back again later. Understandable that you feel sad, (((((hugs))))) to you from me. I was the exact same with my Dad - who brought me up - when I was that age, now I can see what a wonderful man he is, what a great parent he always was and still is. Hang in there my dear.
Sara x
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