What I hate about me!!!!
When I stop working outside the home and become a sahm...things happen
1st I'm really good at keeping my house all nice and neat...
I feel ansey and Iam always finding stuff to do..what a good wife
Great right???
Then.......
what happens next...I get lazy....
I stop being so into the housework
I find myself rushing to clean house right before my hubby gets home..
Hardly ever put makeup on...sometimes don't get dressed for hours...
I can't get modivated to do crap...
I feel so badly...
Husband comes home and starts cleaning..I say don't do that.......
thats my job...
He says its ok I dont mind..
I say I mind...I'm a crappy wife I'm sorry
He says no your not...
I say I need a system....I need structure..
He says I will help you make a schedule...
Hubby calls asks what?????? your not on the internet...<he is teasing>
I said well not yet...He asks what are you doing????..
I say just about to jump up and clean house before my hubby gets home..
He laughs and says your so nutty...
I tryed flylady I don't even read the e-mails I just delete them
now my house is clean so don't think were filty people we are not..
It's just not as clean as I would like it...
I have no reason for it not to be except
for the distractions..
TV
Computer
The Mall
A Hot Bath
dang just anything distracts me
Gee whiz
I'm such a failure <SIGH>
Donna
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15 comments:
When the factory closed that i had worked for...for almost 8yrs...i was drawing unemployment for 6months...and i'm tellin you girl...i completely understand....the first week or so i was off...i was always cleaning...then i got really really LAZY...lol
It just happens....u get in that comfort zone.... Hugss....~Terri~
Failure my butt! I do the same thing sometimes...clean up right before hubby comes home, LOL!
OK THAT'S IT! I am officially and I mean officially convinced that you jumped into my brain and stole my thoughts!!!!!! I think we are twins separated at birth!!!!!
Stacy
Don't hate yourself! You just described ME...JAE
I had problems doing flylady too. Now I am getting into it and my house is getting cleaner.
Not a failure at all!! I think we all get like this - from reading your other comments :o) - and I certainly know all about rushing around tidying up just before my hubby gets home!! FlyLady sends a whole bunch of emails that I just delete without reading too, but a couple of the routines have helped me out. I have to be up and dressed in the morning to get J to school, otherwise I'm sure I'd not bother half the time either! It's boredom not lazyness, that's why we spend so much time on here. Thank goodness for here ;o)
Sara x
oh hell! I hate to clean house like the worst group of men slobs...lmao....been there and done that!
Kelly
lol Donna you sound just like me!! ;o) In fact, If I didn't see your name at the bottom of this entry I'd be totally convinced I wrote it myself! I think It's hard to come out of the "cabin fever" after such a relentless winter....I never used to be like this either...but 3 kids later (all 6 and under) I just have NO energy or motivation!!! UGH!!
(((HUGS)))
~Angel
http://journals.aol.com/alilcountrycharm/LifesSimplePleasures/
No you are not a failure. I went throught the same exact thing. When I first quit my job and became a SAHM I was super wife and super mom. Then it all faded. I wasn't motivated at all and I felt like a loser. I did all the things you just talked about. I think its normal, don't feel bad. I am not a SAHM anymore but I do know exactly how you feel right now.
Terra
You sound normal to me, that is compared to me. LOL I too raised three sons who are now all grown up. It took me a long time to stop beating up on myself after I began staying home....long story...one because I wasn't bring an income in any more. That's a biggie. Two...because my house wasn't as tidy as it was when I worked a full-time job and was taking care of three little boys and one big one. Don't hate you. Love you. It is your time to find your own schedule. Don't feel guilty. Appreciate hubby who sees who you are and loves you just the way you are. On another note, I was just out in Texas visiting my son and his family. You all have the most beautiful wildflowers around. Get yourself a good digital camera and add that to your obsessions. It's fun, that will perk you up.
Marlene-PurelyPoetry
http://journals.aol.com/mkolasa101/PurelyPoetry
OMG, Donna, are you a clone of me? you just described me to a T!!! I am exactly the same way..I was raring to go when I first quit my job...now, I don't get my makeup on, I wear sweats, I wait till my husband is about to be home to get off my butt and do ANYTHING! He is so sweet...he just says, "What have you been doing all day, on the computer?"....I just act really busy and kiss and hug on him. He's the best! Just wanted you to know that you are not alone! You and I are just alike! What do we do? Any ideas? I unsubscribed to Flylady too...lol! See, we ARE alike!
Hugs,
Stace
I've heard of this fly woman in a few other blogs. She must not have two dogs, three cats, five birds --- or A JOB! We're all just trying to tread water these days. Don't welcome stress into your life. Your hubby sounds pretty cool! :)
Russ
Donna, are you PMSing ??? Cause I am ... You know when women work or live together they get on the same cyle. I think it's the same here !!!!! I hope things look better today. No reason to hate yourself, OK??
Ellen
Yep, sounds like me! I learned a long time ago that housework will always be there. What you do today will be there again tomorrow and need doing again. People are more important, life is too short to worry about the house. As long as it is clean and not a complete tip, I would stop worrying about it. Sounds like you have a great hubby!
Lack of cleaning does not portray failure. It just means we were't born with the cleaning gene.... That's my story and I'm stickin to it. ~Sie.
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